Dating Awkwardness

Alright, here's the situation:
I just transferred to public school. I met a guy whom I have not seen since kindergarten. He and I were buddies back then, but that was 10 years ago and, obviously, things change. He wants to ask me out. I really am not in the mood, since I'm busy with band and adjusting to a new school. Also, I really don't like him that much anymore. He's also friends with one of my best (female) friends, who thinks that I should go out with him. I think not (and my parents agree) However, I don't want to hurt his feelings, so how do I respectfully tell him "no"?

im not experienced with boyfriends and crap hey i didnt say the s word that deserves a cookie haha anyway just tell him that you need some time to get situated and that in the future maybe and that ur sorry and ask if u can just be friends i dont no get a "mans" advice haha

Just tell him nows not the time, your still trying to get yourself orginized, and you arent positive you like him that way yet, and to give you a bit to mull it over.

bandbaby wrote:Just tell him nows not the time, your still trying to get yourself orginized, and you arent positive you like him that way yet, and to give you a bit to mull it over.

Annnnd Daphne beat me to it.

Starr wrote:

bandbaby wrote:Just tell him nows not the time, your still trying to get yourself orginized, and you arent positive you like him that way yet, and to give you a bit to mull it over.

Annnnd Daphne beat me to it.

I try, I try.

=P

yah what daf said just say you just got out of solitary lol ok all jokes aside just say your not ready and that you need toget yurself organized first. He'll get the picture that your saying no

Just tell him that you're not ready to date anyone yet. Then make sure you tell him why so he doesn't think you just don't want to date HIM (even if that's the case). I don't want to date anyone right now, either, and so that's what I do. I tell the guys that I don't want to date right now and then I tell them why. The reason I don't want to date is because I don't want to give my heart out to a bunch of different guys before I get married. I also don't feel that I need to date right now. If a guy really likes me, he'll wait for me.

So there's my advice. Hope it helps.

Scream in his face, and then say "sorry" in a cute, anime like way.

hahahahahahahaha i like freaks idea

It is a good one, isn't it?

Well, thanks for the advice. I didn't get to utilize any of it in this situation, but things like this always come in handy.

Wait, so, what happened?

I find it funny only girls (except freakshow) replyed to what to do in that sutiation and there girls =O. Telling you about a guys feelings thats just werid.... Although you girls are probally right...

Well, this guy would probably be damaged if she went about this wrong, and lets face it, girls are more...ah, "considering" when it comes to these things.

Yeah your right .. Although doesn't matter how you put it if your not going out with him its still going to disappoint him =D

that depends..i usually just randomly say no...they ask and i just say no and walk away...well except for the time it was my best friend....

And you slapped him across the face and threw him out a window?

Yeah, I've done that. All the guy wanted was a tissue, though.

Well, I sent him a note that said I already knew that he wanted to ask me out and my answer to that was a simple "no". Yes, I know note-sending isn't good in these kinds of situations, but I'm more tongue-tied than most in real life, so writing's easier. He got it. Now, he apparently wants one of my friends to make me like him, or something along those lines, which is both impossible and just plain immature. If he brings it up again, I'm just going to say "no" until he bugs off.

yea...thats just saying he is a little obsessive...i hate wen guys do stupid things like that...tho a note was kinda...not the #1 choice...it was still good...then u know wut u wanted 2 say & didnt hav 2 worry about being interupted...

Neh...I'm going to have to disagree with nearly everything said so far. I personally would much rather be told "no." than to be told "...maybe some time in the future". The worst thing a guy can possibly hear (even worse than being rejected) is "I think of you more of a friend..." or that you're too good of friends, so I'd say never take that route. I think if you just tell him that you don't like him that way, instead of leading him on by saying "I'm really busy right now but maybe sometime..." it would be a lot easier for both of you. Good luck with everything.

lol....

Just get married, it takes away all the problems of dating, cuase your freakin married already.

nice advice David. lol

thanks, giving people good advice is sort of a hobby of mine.

Good advice has a different definition for me, though.

redrosekiss09 wrote:yea...thats just saying he is a little obsessive...i hate wen guys do stupid things like that...tho a note was kinda...not the #1 choice...it was still good...then u know wut u wanted 2 say & didnt hav 2 worry about being interupted...

Us guys are like that. We will stalk you absurdly for all your teen years, go to all the Cafes you go to, all the parks, we will be staring at you through your window, we will go to the same college as you, with the same classes, and we will constantly break into your dorm room when you're not there to smell are your belongings.

And that's when we're normal.