I'm so confused!?!

Okay, so I have this huge guy problem. Right now I just feel like not speaking to anyone and locking myself in my room and blasting my music. Okay, so if you were here last year you may have heard of Matthew. Well, we went through this big thing and we weren't thinking at all of being together. Though I still want to. The thing is he really upset me at the [thing u guys wouldnt probly understand] Jubilee. [its weird..dont ask] I tried asking him about the Rascal Flatts concert and how it went, cause his brother went instead of me. He was like 'It was good.' Then turned away and didn't say anything else...Which is not normal for him. So I hung out with his brother later [Eric] because I couldn't find my friends. I told him I was mad at Matthew and he mad me even more upset by telling me that Matthew was the one who didn't want to go to the concert with him. So I hung out with him a while until I spotted my friends.

Okay, so he does that to me, doesn't talk to me at like all. Then Sunday at Church he didn't say anything. I called my friend all upset and she said I just shouldn't talk to him if he was going to be that way. So last night at Church I took his movie cause I figured he might want it back. I told Eric I had it and that I'd give it to him. Thinking maybe I could avoid Matthew altogether. So after Church we went outside and I gave him the movie. We talked for a little while...Here's things we talked about.
~Pastor had mentioned something this morning about if at all possible you should date someone with in our Church rather than going online and finding some...Big whole thing. So Eric had mentioned to me that Matthew said the first thing he thought about was Alana, cause we were all thinking that was who Pastor was kinda directing it to. Then he thought of me. ME! MEMEMEMEMEME!! Okay, sooooooooo gr there.
~Matthew apparently told Eric about my plans for my life which consist of getting married after school and starting my life. Simple yet what I want. Well, he told Eric it was just so dumb, cause 'she would have to get a job, she couldn't just make her husband work' blah blah blah. SOOO gr there as well.
~Also that when Matthew found out that Eric was the one that was getting the movie, Matthew was like, 'Well I'll get it' And argued with Eric cause he wanted to know why he couldn't get his own movie [the reason being i was trying not to talk to him]

Then Matthew came out and was in his brand new car driving up and down the parking lot, finally came to us. Eric gave him his movie and he started talking about his dumb car, and whatever. Then after a while I had to leave. YAY!

Now, Eric likes me. He has for a while and asked me out jokingly at the Jubilee. I said no. [i like his brother...which he knows] Buuuut I think I'm starting to like him too. But I don't know if its just cause I want to make Matthew jealous, or whether I really like him. It's so confusing. But he's also sooo sweet, he went and got my jacket out of the car when he saw I was cold. He gets concerned when I'm upset and asks what's wrong. All this stuff.

As you all can see. I'm sOOOO not sure of what I want. What would you do in this situation???

I love ya all!
~Em

ok i'm not the best in relationships but i am a teenage girl soooo here it goes...

Matt seems like a jerk. but yet to you, he's perfect no matter what he does ... my friend has one of those guy ... but yet you think you like his brother which seems like a real great guy ... honestly just because you don't know if you like him or if you're just trying to get is brother jelouse ... doesn't mean you won't actually like him .... plenty of girls make this mistake of waiting for a guy .... you're 16 ... not 25 ... live your teen years ... God only gave you 7 of them ... so live it and if you make a mistake you learn from it ... and maybe do it agian ... but just have fun and keep your friends close

pm me if you want any more help !

thnx so much leana...i know...im 16..but i would like 2 get married after i graduate...i kno...its kinda rushing...but thats wut ive always seen myself doing...cuz i dont really wanna go 2 college...i dont know...thats why im trying not 2 wait 4 matt...but its soooo hard sumtimes...lol...im keeping my other options open...but i just want a guy friend 2 go out w/ & hav fun..not neccessarily a dating thing...just 2 friends of the opposite gender...hanging out...which ppl see impossible...thnx tho!

emily u have liek 4ever b4 u so take it slow...believe me and stay away from JERKS...how do i know? self-experience

well...im 16...in 11th grade...& so i hav 2 yrs of skool left...if i want 2 get married after i graduate id say b4 i turn 20 or wen i turn 20...i figure i should start looking now...yes...i know..20 or wutever is a young age..but my Bible counciler doesnt think its the worst idea becuz i know wut i want 2 do w/ my life...i dont want a huge big career that i cant be w/ my family...i want 2 get married, work a few yrs & just enjoy being w/ whomever my husband will be, and then id like to start having kids by the age 25...thats been my plan for a long time...& if i want it 2 hapen..then i need 2 start moving on...im starting to think certain things stupid wen ppl say u have 4ever...bcuz u dont...u don know wen ull be taken from this earth. u dont know the future....& yea...i have self experience w/ jerks 2...matthew can be...we would just hav 2 talk sum things out. but idk...im reading this book called 'emotional purity' that my friend gave me...i think its going 2 help..it shows how u should take ur emotions & use themin the right way...thnx 4 ur thoughts tho!

good books to read

I kissed dating goobye (joshua harris)

boy meets girl (joshua harris)

passion and purity (elizabeth elliot)

when God writes your love story (eric and leslie ludy)


they all ROCK u must check into them

YEAH ^^^
move on...good advice...its for your own good...it WILL hurt but all worth it
who would u wanna spend the REST OF YOUR life with...thats what i always keep in my head..

thnx for the advice girls!! i luv that quote u put it brit!! im so printing it out & sticking it sumwhere so i can read it all the time...lol...i luv u guys!! & im working on getting over him. THNX AGAIN!